Sounds like you missed the real problem... an ass chewing is just what you can't do. If someone thinks they know what they are doing, all that accomplishes is to put them on the defense immediately. And the consequence then becomes a defensive person who truly will have to learn the hard way.caddis wrote:Sounds like an ass chewing is what is needed. Maybe you should print that last post and make them read it.
This is one of those things - adults like to be experts and in charge, because they are. How would you like it if I came over and demanded that you change the way you organized your furniture based on my personal fung shui? That's about what it amounts to, without the underlying reasons you are telling them not to do things like avoiding that lovely flat spot 10 feet from the river. And then they have to buy into the underlying reasons, and not be all "you tree hugger jerks are killjoys. this is the perfect spot." Might as well try to get Catholics to be Unitarians.