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My (Rosabella's) pink ribbon

Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 4:16 pm
by Rosabella
Hi All!

This month marks a really important milestone in my life, and I’d like to share my story.

I had been faithful about getting my mammograms every year, so in the fall of 2000 I wasn’t too concerned when I found a marble-size lump in my breast. Nothing had shown up in my last mammogram, so I thought it must be just a cyst; it had to be… there’s no history of cancer in my family. I went to my doctor mid-December and mentioned it to him; he checked it and recommended a biopsy. A week before Christmas I got the results – it was a tumor… and it was malignant. (Merry Christmas :( )

With the backlog of surgeries due to the holidays, I had a couple weeks to wait… and wait. I can tell you from personal experience that Dr. Kuebler-Ross’s five stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance) are not experienced only by the dying – we go thru each of these same steps when dealing with any major trauma. There was a lot of “why me?” “This isn’t fair - I’ve always taken care of myself, stayed in shape, and didn’t abuse my body!”… and lots of tears.

But I did get to the point of acceptance and ready to do what I needed to do to heal myself. I read a lot, swinging from one extreme to the other while considering every option; my surgeon was so understanding and patient and discussed each of these options with me. I was really lucky to have such a great team of Doctors (University of Washington and Seattle Cancer Care Alliance) We decided to plan on doing a sentinel node biopsy (to test the lymph nodes for metastasis) and just a “lumpectomy” for the tumor. Of course, this was all subject to change depending on what they found during surgery, but the surgery went as planned and there was no trace of cancer in the lymph nodes.

A couple weeks later I started the series of radiation treatments. This was NO picnic, but preferable by far over chemotherapy treatments. I finished my radiation in April of 2001. I’ve been on Tamoxifen since then and will be switching to a new medicine this month.

So, here I am… five years later. I’ve got a couple 2-inch “battle scars” and four tiny tattoos (radiation markers) the size of the period at the end of this sentence but they don’t bother me. On the contrary, I see them as symbols of how lucky I was (and am) and as a daily reminder that every day is precious and not to be taken for granted. I see my Oncologist every six months and she says I’m doing great! I do know I was very lucky – so many women have had to go through devastating surgeries and chemotherapy poison… or worse.

So to end this (and ultimately the purpose of this thread) I just want to emphasize to you, your wives, daughters, mothers, etc. how important self-examinations are. I had assumed that my mammograms would find any and all problems, but it missed this one. Mammograms are a wonderful tool; it’s just not the only tool. ….and life is great!

:heart:
Rosie



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Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 5:55 pm
by Rockman
Right On, Rosabella! :)

Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 6:30 pm
by copeg
Wow...I'm speechless Rosie. My stomach started to churn as I read this. I admire your courage, which is more than I can possibly imagine.

Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 7:28 pm
by ERIC
Excellent post, Rosie.

Self-examinations are critical. And I was shocked to learn not too long ago that lumps are more commonly discovered by intimate partners than by the women who have them. :unibrow: It’s very important that women inform their partners and make sure they too are educated on what abnormalities to look out for.

This message brought to you by Eric's wife, Megan... :nod:

Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 7:40 pm
by BSquared
Thanks, Rosie!

Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 8:29 pm
by Snow Nymph
Great post! I can totally relate to this! I didn't go thru as much as you, though.

I had an abnormal mammogram last June. I went thru the “why me?” “Not fair - I take care of myself . . . " too. I had skipped a few years of getting mammograms before, thinking it couldn't happen to me. I didn't have any lumps, but the last mammo showed up as an abnormal. So it doesn't always appear as a lump. I had ADH, which is Abnormal Ductal Hyperplasia. I had to wait forever for an open date for the surgery, and finally had a lumpectomy in January of this year. 10 days later I went in for a checkup and was told "you're a free woman". I also have a 1.25" scar which is ugly, but I'm getting used to it. I won't be skipping anymore appointments.

Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 8:57 pm
by Allyn
Nice to hear that things are going well for you! Glad to hear it seems to be out of your system. I look forward to running into you with my brother (vaughnm) this summer on the JMT.

On a side note, you guys need to make sure you take care of your cancer prone areas (prostrate) as well. I had abnormal levels last year and was shocked to hear that a 1 in 5 chance of getting cancer down there was not so bad. A 20 percent chance in my opinion is not good odds! I have my 1 year check up in a couple of months after a negative biopsy last year so will keep my fingers crossed as well.

Thanks for the update Rosie!

Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 9:08 pm
by krudler
Whoa...!

My wifes sister was just going throught the same thing. You guys are awesome.

Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 9:29 pm
by ERIC
Allyn wrote:On a side note, you guys need to make sure you take care of your cancer prone areas (prostrate) as well. I had abnormal levels last year and was shocked to hear that a 1 in 5 chance of getting cancer down there was not so bad. A 20 percent chance in my opinion is not good odds! I have my 1 year check up in a couple of months after a negative biopsy last year so will keep my fingers crossed as well.
Yep. As I understand it, anyone over the age of 30 should be getting that checked out once a year. A buddy of mine had prostrate cancer when he was 28 (YIKES! Thankfully, he's doing ok now...), so I've been traumatized into getting checked out since I was 25. Not the most comfortable thing to have done, but I'd rather be living and doing the things I love than the alternative..

Posted: Tue Apr 04, 2006 10:07 pm
by dave54
At the risk of being insensitive and politically incorrect...



More men develop prostate cancer than women breast cancer (1:6 versus 1:8). Death rates from each are about the same (1:33). Yet breast cancer annually receives 10x the research funding as prostate cancer, and virtually no media attention is focused on prostate.

Perhaps we guys need a 'blue ribbon' equivalent campaign.